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12th September 2012, 09:07 PM #1
Sometimes life sucks!
Hi all, I don't often post a rant here (or anywhere for that matter) but things have happened tonight that cause me to just let loose!
Way back in April this year my young brother was diagnosed the a "small" brain tumor behind his left ear. He underwent surgery to remove the nasty little pest and has been undergoing chemo and radio therapy for the past few months. In between time his doctors have been tweaking his med's which had the not so pleasant effect of causing him to suffer fits.
Now as if all of this is not enough, his wife - my SIL - had a liver transplant 3 years ago and still has to have regular check-ups, AND their daughter (15) has curvature of the spine and requires an operation to help straighten her spine. I would say that the only ones in the family who are fit is their son and the dog, but the dog has arthritis and is also on medication, so I guess that just leaves their son ( also 15).
Anyway, I received a call from my brother tonight, he just rang to let me know that his tumor had returned AND had bought along a friend.... JUST HOW MUCH DOES ONE FAMILY HAVE TO GO THROUGH!!!!!
Unfortunately we do not live close to each other - a 2 hour drive - otherwise I would be there to see him every day. I dont know if what I am feeling is anger at what fate has done to them or guilt over not living closer to them.
As I said at the start, I dont often rant, but just need to get this off of my chest. Anyway, time to suck it in princess and give hem as much moral and physical support as I can and hope they all come out the other side.
Thanks for reading if you have got this far.I try and do new things twice.. the first time to see if I can do it.. the second time to see if I like it
Kev
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12th September 2012, 09:17 PM #2
Kev there is times to rant and you dont need an excuse to do it.
I am sure I can say for everyone here that we hope all goes well for your brother and his family and with your support it eases some of their pain.Jim Carroll
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12th September 2012, 09:19 PM #3
Bummer, I feel for you, went through a similar thing with my nan and one of my uncles of who have now both gone to greener pastures.
Hope things work out for the best with them.Cheers
DJ
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12th September 2012, 09:32 PM #4Awaiting Email Confirmation
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Dear Kev,
To echo the thoughts of the previous respondents, I'm sure that all and sundry here would be extending their sympathies to you and your brother. It's hard to know exactly what to say in such cases, because they often end very sadly. I know it wouldn't be of any consolation, but you'd be surprised at the number of tragic stories that are unfolding out there in families just like the one you belong too. Most of the time they're really decent guys, too - both those that go, as well as those that are left behind to suffer the grief. You're still way too young to lose a brother, that's for sure. I'll remember your situation in my own sporadic prayers when able.
Sincerest Regards,
Batpig.
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12th September 2012, 10:34 PM #5GOLD MEMBER
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12th September 2012, 10:47 PM #6Skwair2rownd
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Kev your rant is totally understandable and totally aceptable. It is so unfair that one family can go through so much.
I feel for you and your family. Kind regards to you all.
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12th September 2012, 11:17 PM #7
Really sorry to hear your news. No words can truly the job that is necessary. With regard to the guilt feeling you have, not seeing the brother often enough, I know first hand what you are saying. Both my parents ended up with demensure and I still have that feeling of guilt about not seeing them enough (6 hour drive to see them) (Both are gone now) For me its a burden that pops up from time to time.
I am sure your brother knows that if he really needed to see you urgently you would be there in a shot! My brother is an hour away and I would probably talk to him maybe once every 3 weeks. I would like to see him more often but life gets in the way.
I hope he comes out on top along with the SIL and of coarse the daughter needs our wishes of good health as well.Just do it!
Kind regards Rod
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12th September 2012, 11:41 PM #8
G'Day Kev
You have done the right thing and let some friends know how you feel and where you are at.
The worst thing you could do is bottle it up.
Each and everyone of us here wish and pray that all will work out for the best.
From personal experience I know that a positive attitude, family,good friends and large doses of prayer works miracles.
We are all here to support you and your family.
BlessingsThe person who never made a mistake never made anything
Cheers
Ray
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13th September 2012, 02:21 AM #9Retired
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It is indeed bad.
My wife has a brain tumour, an oligoastrocytoma. It had caused her to make a galactically huge number of awful decisions. She racked up stupendous debt. I lost $1.6 million. Cash, shares, gold, super, houses, the lot. I lost it all. 42, all gone. Kaput.
Its just over a year later and I am still with her.
What life has taught me is that you need to know what is truly important. Too many people think money is important, it is not, it is a means of transaction. What drives importance is human interaction. "things" are just that.
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14th September 2012, 12:32 AM #10SENIOR MEMBER
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deepest sympathy, i also know first hand the blows life can deal, sure seems like a nice community here, hope things get better for the family
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15th September 2012, 02:30 PM #11Foo
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Life can really be a bitch at times! Hope all works out in the end mate.
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15th September 2012, 05:09 PM #12
Thanks all, I have spoken with my brother again today and he seems to be coping ok with things. guess all I can do now is be there to support them all.
I try and do new things twice.. the first time to see if I can do it.. the second time to see if I like it
Kev
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15th September 2012, 06:20 PM #13Senior Member
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Hi Kev getting on the forum and having your say about how you feel is the best thing you have done. I like every one else wish you and your brother's family wish you all the best.
Cheers Alby
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27th June 2013, 06:45 PM #14
My young brother Paul passed away last Friday evening, He put up a brave fight and to the end kept a positive and cheerful attitude. Over the last 4 months the tumors had started to affect his memory to the point where he could not remember anything from 10 minutes prior.
It was sad to see a person deteriorate this way. As well as the memory loss, he began to experience seizures on a regular basis at least one every 10 days.
I have to admire my sister-in-law for the way she handled everything that was thrown at her. She was a constant visitor to Monash Clayton as well as the various oncology specialists. She handled the seizures with out complaint and managed to keep their family functioning as best it could under the circumstances.
I consider my self fortunate to have spent the second last day looking after my brother while my wife, daughter and sister-in-law took a well deserved break shopping. Paul and I spent time chatting, on limited topics, and we even managed to go out for dinner. He did spend a lot of time sleeping, but we still had a great time.
Unfortunately he experienced another seizure that after noon and the last time I saw him was in the back of the ambulance.
Just over 24 hours later my sister-in-law rang to say that Paul had experienced another seizure which had claimed his life.
My brother was 6 weeks off of his 45 birthday, and I will miss him greatly.
this is the reason for this post: https://www.woodworkforums.com/f67/ta...-y-0-a-173023/
Thanks for reading
KevI try and do new things twice.. the first time to see if I can do it.. the second time to see if I like it
Kev
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27th June 2013, 07:05 PM #15
Mate
I can't even pretend to know how you are feeling. You at least had that day together. He will always be in your thoughts so he is not far away. It could be a time to draw the family closer together. Boy, 45 is not old is it! But when your number is up.....
Please accept my condolences.
Only today we had my twins sisters drop in for a quick visit. The time went so fast, then they left. I only see them roughly twice a year. There is nothing like family.
Then to add to your woes you do a number on your thumb. Ooooh that will take some time come right. You will soon know who your friends are when it comes to dressing (clothes, that is) eating and well you know what happens after you eat, you need s....
I hope your convalescents is short so you can return to the "scene of the crime" and continue with the job you were working on.Just do it!
Kind regards Rod
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