Broken hearted...

[kekemo]

Well they say when you touch rock bottom you reach for a life line....
My dear woodworking mates... 4 years on & still flying solo. Had wonderful Xmas with kids & family... saw a glimmer of hope on the radar... but not so... just a shadow that passed & left me feeling so hurt & cold...

Why do we trust so easily when our hearts still recovering...
I don't want to forget how to love... but I'm fast learning NOT to trust....

Heart felt sympathy to all who have lost a love one... an find the steps to recovery are thwart with hidden dangers... when your hearts only just recovered... learnt a valuable lesson... stick to woodworking... make sawdust ... dont go after star dust... it's not tangible or worth the added pain...

Need friends ...
Cheer Kekemo....

[munruben]

That is a really sad post and my heart goes out to you. I know what you mean about trusting again, its not easy but we have to believe and hope and some day you will find something out there that will make your life pleasurable once again.
There is no magic cure for getting over someone you love dearly and although you think all is lost, it is not really the case. Life has to go on and we must treasure our memories of our loved ones but we also have to move on for ourselves and find happiness once more.

Trust doesn't come easy and some of us have been hurt more than others by trusting someone and having that trust broken. I am speaking from experience I have trusted people only to be let down heavily in the end.

don't despair though because there is a life out there for you to share with someone who will be worthy of your trust and then the world will have a new meaning once again for you.

Don't give up, Tomorrow is another day and don't give up your trust in people. There are heaps of genuine folk out there who can be trusted. You just have to find each other.
Good luck and may 2011 be a happy year for you.

[Scribbly Gum]

Chin up Kekemo.
You have friends here.
Life is just one day at a time. Keep busy, it helps.
:2tsup::2tsup::2tsup:
SG

[springwater]

So sorry for your loss, I haven't got the answer for your healing but I feel your sorrow, please try to plan something and make it and see the worth in that, I'm no good at this but if it's possible for you to feel this here's a warm hug.

[tea lady]

Sorry you are down again Kekemo! :C :console:

What I have found is that you also need to do stuff that gets you WITH people. I sing in a choir, And I do tai chi classes. I have made some very good freinds through both these things, plus uyou get endorfins and better health as a bonus. Finding it a bit hard over the holidays though! Kid is on Holiday, but weirdly I am MORE isolated cos there is no school pick up to just say "hi" to a few people! I haven't lost anyone though. Just coping with depression, so I can only imagine what you are feeling. I'll go and put the kettel on now and we can have a cup of tea together at least at the same time, if not at the same place. :)

[Foo]

Good things come to those that wait! :2tsup:

Think of the Life of Brian! Always look on the bright side of life.:wink:

Don't let yourself get down.:)

[dai sensei]

Hmm, all I can say is keep the chin up :-

It took me 10 years to get over my first wife as I lost all my family and friends. I thought that was bad, but then she took the kids interstate with a new bloke that loved spending my money, so I found a new low. The second wife helped me get better slowly, but then she left after 7 years taking everything from the bank and emptied the house, while I was at my father's funeral :o:~ I didn't think I could get any lower, but then the dogs died, the shed burnt down and I got told I had arthritus and a brain tumor :doh:. I really started doubting the meaning of life.

Why am I telling you this, not for simpathy :no:, but to outline there is always someone worse off than yourself. You need to concentrate on what you do have, not on what you don't. Think of those poor people near Toowoomba that have lost homes and family. I have been flying solo for 7 years and still have huge trust issues, but I accept it and just keep trying to move forward, being happy with just myself.

I live for my kids and woodworking, one day at a time, joining clubs etc to build my friend/support base. Talk to your friends, I'm sure there will be many willing to lend you a shoulder. I know you like your woodworking and camping, so you could try what I do, head off to nowhere and call in on as many forum members as you can. Collect timber, knowledge and friendships - works for me.

Don't forget if it does feel like it is all too much, see your doctor, there are drugs out there that can help you get past those "edges".

Hope this helps, I'm better at face to face :-

[Foo]

I think you put that quite well Dai Sensei!

[acmegridley]

Here's a big kiss and cuddle from me!!:2tsup:

[Phil Spencer]

the LOML nearly took her life about three years ago, it shook me to the core, thankfully I still have her and with help she is making progress, PLEASE do not give up there is hope, family and eventually love. talking amongst supportive friends always helps, good luck my thoughts are with you. :)

[kekemo]

My deepest appreciation for all your support... certainly give me warm fuzzy feelings to know others do care.

I must clarify that although grief weights heavy for me... I acknowledge the need to socialize & move forward... my children are a constant source of absolute delight... they are adults... aged 30 - 37... for their love & including me in their lives I will be eternally indebted... however even with friends & family... that "special reserved" space in my heart is vacant & aching... to have partner who's presences just makes that "difference" ....
...the one you want to share you're deepest concerns.. your accomplishments & the times when we goof so stupidly... they're the ones we want to laugh with .....
There are times when I don't want my children to worry about me... usually I confide my feeling with friends... this is just one time when I don't want my close family or friends to know how raw my emotions are making me feel right now...
(... sitting on bus to Augusta... Western Australia right now... taking 3 days break with daughter... my stupid Vodafone isn't working.. but laptop is 5 bars strong...technology... looking forward to returning to workshop)
Son's wedding in 4 weeks trying be best mother I can be... that's my ultimate goal at present... emtionaly I'm feeling a wreck... just need some time & TLC...
Thank you all for caring... & YES one day I WILL TRAVEL EAST... with festo sander packed...
cheers Kerry

[Foo]

That's the way! :D

[Sturdee]

There are times when I don't want my children to worry about me... usually I confide my feeling with friends... this is just one time when I don't want my close family or friends to know how raw my emotions are making me feel right now...


Kerry, I have never had to go through what you've had to but I do know that sometimes you will feel very alone when you are amongst a crowd of family and friends. Sometimes you yearn to be alone with your grief, however don't let it bottle up.

I found that sometimes sharing your rawest emotions and troubles here on this board, like you are doing now, can be very helpful, for you are amongst friends.

Warmest regards and cheer up.

Peter.

[tea lady]

....
Son's wedding in 4 weeks trying be best mother I can be... that's my ultimate goal at present... emtionaly I'm feeling a wreck... just need some time & TLC...
Thank you all for caring... & YES one day I WILL TRAVEL EAST... with festo sander packed...
cheers KerrySon is getting married? :hmm: Might be helping you feel a bit sadder about your loss all over again! Someone else getting a partner! Kinda like you want! Or maybe someone you love also getting in a vulnerable position and may be hurt by a loss like you were. I'm sure there must be lots of conflicting emotions happening there. :C Plus having to go to a wedding! :doh: You only have 4 weeks to find the perfect shoes! :oo:

Just my thoughts anyway! :)

[Too Many Clamps]

kekemo. Some days are better than others. Some aren't. Reaching out to others is on the road back. Glad to see you are on the path back home.

[kevjed]

Kerry, one day at a time, one step at a time. You may recall I shared with you a little of my history and how I understand a little of how you have felt and feel from time to time. I still miss my first wife, always will. But I found love again and now have two lovely children. Now my second wife is dying from cancer. Some time in the next few years I'll be a single dad of two very young children. I hope that I have the courage to be strong again and allow myself to be open to love and all the dangers and joy that comes with it. One day at a time one step at a time and make sure you allow your self to live, breath, laugh and cry. Don't be afraid to feel my friend, life is too short to not take risks.
Warm regards
Kevin