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Originally Posted by Marc

No derision intended and I don't know neither of the people involved.
Just an observation.
And if you think this is an isolated case you have something else coming. All forums have this occurrences regularly. This forum is probably the one that from all the forums I know has the least.

Yes, of course your observation is the sensible one, this shouldn't happen, we should be civil, why do this or that. That goes without saying.

However it is healthy to look at ourselves when something like this happens.
The person that posts a helpful comment does so because the set of values that govern his character tells him that this is the way to be, that is who he is.
The person that posts a stiff lipped comment does so because the set of values that govern his character tells him that this is the way to be, that is who he is.
Both do so for themselves, to conform to who they are, to what both think is of value, each believing that such is the best light they will be seen in by others.
In general is best not to tell a person this, since he will deny it vigorously. The mechanism by which we operate is not very popular and certainly not politically correct.
Still it is very helpful if someone can look into it and understand what makes him or her tick.

My last sentence was not aimed at you, or your post Marc. It was a general comment, looking at the whole thread.

And if you think this is an isolated case you have something else coming. All forums have this occurrences regularly. This forum is probably the one that from all the forums I know has the least.

I am aware of this. It appears to me that it has been occurring more often in recent times, on this forum. Not a good thing.

However it is healthy to look at ourselves when something like this happens.

Agreed.

The person that posts a helpful comment does so because the set of values that govern his character tells him that this is the way to be, that is who he is.
The person that posts a stiff lipped comment does so because the set of values that govern his character tells him that this is the way to be, that is who he is.
Both do so for themselves, to conform to who they are, to what both think is of value, each believing that such is the best light they will be seen in by others.

Well put.

In general is best not to tell a person this, since he will deny it vigorously.

Absolutely true. In fact that person will not be aware that what they do is not "socially acceptable". They usually think it is someone else at fault.

The mechanism by which we operate is not very popular and certainly not politically correct.

Human's as a race like to imagine that we are civilised. It is just a thin veneer.

Still it is very helpful if someone can look into it and understand what makes him or her tick.

I am fascinated by the various aspects of human nature (and often frustrated). The responses from people in a situation like this can be interesting. Watching colleagues at work, I have come to realise that probably 75% of decisions made by them have no basis in logic. The average human has very little logic capability.

One of the reasons I like this Forum is that the members generally have better than average logic capability. That is a given, simply because of the Forum name and the hobby we all share.

I like your way of thinking Marc.

Dean