Thread: Am I an idiot ?

Don 't have daughters but three sons, none of whom are slug boys and for that I am thankful.

At the moment however, I am observing plenty of angst among friends and family her in Brasil who have similar issues.

We all love our children. but there is a difference between a soft heart and a soft head. Tough love is often the answer, provided it's not left for too long.

Originally Posted by Brudda

Might I suggest you do similar to what I once did.. Take "slug boy" out into the workshop, and introduce him to the machines you will use to make his body disappear if he makes your daughters life a misery.

My "slug boy" didn't come back

I'm so sorry Phil, but I breed "slug-boys." May the Lord have mercy on my soul.

Originally Posted by Brudda

Phil, I feel your pain.. I have had to help move 2 daughters, one to Cairnes, and one to Brisbaine, the one from Cairnes came home after 3 months.

Fathers do for their daughters because we still want to protect them, After all we were once a slug boy ourselves

Might I suggest you do similar to what I once did.. Take "slug boy" out into the workshop, and introduce him to the machines you will use to make his body disappear if he makes your daughters life a misery.

My "slug boy" didn't come back

I like this idea, problem is he is to fat to go through the thicknesser, could put his hand across the jointer

Originally Posted by kekemo

MUM had to watch his big pennies .... .

Sorry had to read THIS twice

Originally Posted by Sawmaster

I'm so sorry Phil, but I breed "slug-boys." May the Lord have mercy on my soul.

One day we MAY forgive you.. one day........

You are getting slow, Phil. 26 years old and still at home sponging off you?? Car, furniture, removal costs all met by you?? What has she been doing to pay her way in life ?

You should have made it perfectly clear that she was leaving home and that there was no returning. That day she was moving, I would have had contract painters in her room for her to see, ripping down all the posters, repairing all the dints and kick marks, and repainting the room, making it into your study or an office. Your workshop shpuld have been working overtime making new furntiture to suit. That way she would get the message that she has left home, and needs to learn to stand on her own two feet. Tough love!! She would soon realise that Slug Boy was not the ideal supportive partner she needed for this next phase of her life.

Opportunities like that only come once in a lifetime, Phil, and need to be grabbed with both hands. Looks like you allowed the status quo to be restored! Silly man.



regards,
Jill

he he he

Originally Posted by JillB

You are getting slow, Phil. 26 years old and still at home sponging off you?? Car, furniture, removal costs all met by you?? What has she been doing to pay her way in life ?

You should have made it perfectly clear that she was leaving home and that there was no returning. That day she was moving, I would have had contract painters in her room for her to see, ripping down all the posters, repairing all the dints and kick marks, and repainting the room, making it into your study or an office. Your workshop shpuld have been working overtime making new furntiture to suit. That way she would get the message that she has left home, and needs to learn to stand on her own two feet. Tough love!! She would soon realise that Slug Boy was not the ideal supportive partner she needed for this next phase of her life.

Opportunities like that only come once in a lifetime, Phil, and need to be grabbed with both hands. Looks like you allowed the status quo to be restored! Silly man.



regards,
Jill

he he he

I was thrown out of home Jill what's wrong with loving ones daughter and not wanting her to experience the same trauma?

In doing so I have relived the trauma that I went through, to this day I still don't talk to my father.

Compounding all this my daughter has CFS.

I'm 26 i moved out of home when i was 18, owned my first house at 23 and at the moment own 2 houses (trying to sell one). I don't understand how people can make it to that sort of age and still be living with their parents.

Originally Posted by Phil Spencer

I was thrown out of home Jill what's wrong with loving ones daughter and not wanting her to experience the same trauma?

In doing so I have relived the trauma that I went through, to this day I still don't talk to my father.

Jeez Phil, a year is a long time to not to talk to your father.

Mark Twain wrote " I left home at the age of 14 due to the fact my father was such an idiot. I returned years later and was surprised to find how much the old man had learned since I left". We all over compensate for the sins we perceive our parents made, and this is classic over compensation

Originally Posted by Woodwould

Jeez Phil, a year is a long time to not to talk to your father.

A year is a extremely long time, I went longer than that.. the last thing I said to my dad after a year of non talking was "rest in peace"

Originally Posted by Woodwould

Jeez Phil, a year is a long time to not to talk to your father.

Originally Posted by Brudda

A year is a extremely long time, I went longer than that.. the last thing I said to my dad after a year of non talking was "rest in peace"

Left home about 36 years ago, tried talking to him but I gave up too beligerant and nastey and couldn't tell the truth if he tried. Can only bang ones head against the wall for so long.

Originally Posted by nihilism

I'm 26 i moved out of home when i was 18, owned my first house at 23 and at the moment own 2 houses (trying to sell one). I don't understand how people can make it to that sort of age and still be living with their parents.

Do you have a girl friend??

Originally Posted by Phil Spencer

Do you have a girl friend??

and if not, do you want one